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Dear Men In Recovery...
Dear men in “recovery”, Listen closely. Your motivation has to come from inside YOU. A deep, sickened, repulsion towards whatever it is...


When You're Stuck in the Sex Avoidance Cycle
I thought I had a problem. I thought I needed sex therapy. I had loads of guilt. I put immense pressure on myself to “power through”....


10 Ways You Become a REAL Man
Today I was thinking about this guy to the right...(Jim) and I'm so proud of the man he is. And that got me thinking...what makes him...


I Doubted God
Betrayal Trauma makes you doubt. EVERYTHING and EVERYONE. You may feel anger towards yourself and those who harmed you, so you doubt...


Betrayed Spouse: You're an Ass. I'll tell you how.
I admit it. I love a good ass. If you are going to stick around and read more of this article, then I need you to switch off the way...


Why a Polygraph?
When first hearing about asking your spouse to take a polygraph, it can cause an entire cascade of emotions. Initially, one may minimize...


Sex Abuse in Marriage: When lines get crossed
This part of sex addiction literally makes me come UNDONE. I've heard too many stories, talked to too many women, read too many...


Sex Addict: Do you want to get well?
John 5:6: "When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to...


Pile of Crap or Pile of Promise?
Yesterday I went out into our pasture to feed our horse some hay. I found myself hopping over pile after pile of horse manure, being...


Lessons from the Butt of a Horse
Several weeks ago, we added a horse to our farm for the first time. We've had goats, chickens, rabbits, ducks, guinea pigs and even a...


Why Porn Sex is Anti-Sex
Porn users love sex...or do they?


Butterfly Beauty
Does the life cycle of a butterfly resonate with you? Can you envision the healthier you? What does she look like? Can you describe her...


13 Forms of Domestic Abuse
If you are interested in educating yourself about sex addiction and the harmful impact it has had on the spouse, I highly recommend...


Bortie the Sea Turtle
Once upon a time, on a beautiful, warm beach in the tropics of Costa Rica, a small courageous sea turtle was born. From the moment she...


The Tale of the Snake and the Toad
A parable of sexual betrayal and the church


Life Lessons From An Alpaca
How An Alpaca helped me see God


She Is Not Your Rehab
How a Barbershop Raises Awareness On Domestic Abuse


My Son Built Me Out Of Lego's
When It Comes To Our Kids, Honesty Always Wins


Finding Peace In The Hard
How Remembering God's Faithfulness Helps Change Our Focus


Everyone Needs A Ralph In Their Life
How To Find Your Safe Tribe
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